ENDING THE HURT
    By Michael Roy

    The Painful Past
    Unfortunately many people in the body of Christ come from homes that were filled with
    abuse, verbally and physically, neglect, and selfishness.  Many of us received mental scars
    from our childhood that are controlling how we live today.  It seems that many Christians are
    continuing to focus on the faults of their parents and society in general for their failures.   It’
    s difficult to understand, but believers in Jesus Christ are saying, it’s so hard for me to stop
    thinking about how terrible my life has been.  Many want to know why they were born in this
    or that family.  Why are they black? Why are they white? Why were they born to poor
    parents?  Why were their parent’s drug addicts or alcoholics?  Why is my parent a
    homosexual or lesbian?  If these were not Christians speaking this way it would not be that
    big of a concern, but these are Christians who continue to struggle with their past.  One has
    to wonder.  Are these folks really saved? Or are they just carnal Christians that do not want
    to put their total faith in Jesus?

    The answers to those questions will be different from person to person, but one thing is
    common and that is people that continue to struggle with their past are unable to see the
    future.  Read here what 2 Peter says in chapter 1 verses 4-9, “Whereby are given unto us
    exceeding great and precious promises:  that by these you might be partakers of the divine
    nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust.  And beside this,
    giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue; and to virtue knowledge; and to knowledge
    temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness; and to godliness
    brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity.  For if these things be in you and
    abound, they make you that ye shall neither be barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our
    Lord Jesus Christ.  But he that lacks these things is blind, and cannot see afar off, and has
    forgotten that he was purged from his old sins.”  So, according to Peter the believer that is
    unable to focus on the promises that where obtained for him/her through the shed blood of
    Jesus will be unfruitful.  The believer that gives more heed to the damaging experiences of
    their past instead of Christ redemption for their sins will be unable to confidently minister to
    others including his/her own household.


    Children Inherit Parents Painful Past
    The most terrible consequence of a parent not forgetting their past is that more than likely
    the hurt and frustrations will be acted out on or demonstrated toward the children.  For,
    example a child raised in the home of alcoholics is more likely to experience verbal and
    physical abuse than a child that has not.  Another example is a boy being raised in a house
    where the father is a closet homosexual and the dad’s anger is always reflected at the boy
    because he doesn’t want his son to grow up like him.  The last example is even more
    terrible because every little boy wants to grow up and be like his father.  Or what about the
    mother that may have been sexually abused by her dad, uncle or some close relative, that
    now teaches her daughter not to trust men or turns her son into a momma’s boy.  Or what
    about the divorced parent that teaches the children to hate the other parent because they
    are no longer together.  Saints these are real issues effecting Christians everyday.  If the
    parents don’t put their hope in Christ they will simply perpetuate this life of pain from one
    generation to the next.  In Philippians 3:13-14, Paul says, “Brethren, I count not myself to
    have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and
    reaching forth unto those things which are before, I press toward the mark for the prize of
    the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.”  Many of the mental scars parents have today are
    rooted in fear and so that fear drives them where they didn’t want to go, which is being like
    their parents.  However, 1 John 4 teaches there is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out
    fear: because fear hath torment.  He that fears is not made perfect in love.  2 Timothy 1:7
    teaches that God has not given us the spirit of fear: but of power, and of love, and of a
    sound mind.


    Christ Has Erased Our Pain
    Saints, as a father and believer in the Lord Jesus I could reflect on how imperfect my
    childhood was and how it has prevented me from achieving great things, but I won’t do that
    because God gets no glory from it and it will only  hurt me and those I love.  There is no
    hurt Jesus cannot heal if we choose to trust in him.  Many believers can’t move from their
    pain because they have not gotten rooted in Christ.  Read what Mark 4:16-17 says, And
    these are they likewise which are sown on stony ground; who when they have heard the
    word, immediately receive it with gladness; And have no “root”(grounding) in themselves,
    and so endure but for a time: afterward, when affliction or persecution arises for the word’s
    sake, immediately they are offended.  The Greek word for offended is “skandalizo”, which
    means to cause to sin.  Consider this, by not being grounded and rooted in the word of God
    we are caused to act on our old sinful nature.  Saints, when we take our minds off of the
    word of God we begin to walk in the flesh, which brings all those horrible memories to haunt
    us.  Isaiah 26:3 says, “Though wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stay on thee
    because he trusts in thee.”  So, don’t leave your children with memories of hurt and pain,
    but of the joy and peace that comes from trusting in Christ.  Amen.

    I pray that God will not allow your children to experience your past.

    In Jesus Name





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